I like how whenever you make a big change in your life everyone has an opinion. You know what I’m talking about. I’m sure you’ve been there before in one way or another. And I’m not saying that we shouldn’t seek out wise counsel when making decisions, obviously we should BUT I have to laugh because most negative commentary is coming from outsiders who have absolutely no idea about the situation at hand or the people involved.
When I tell someone the news of this move and the impending communal living situation there tends to be a certain sequence of events in their reaction. First their jaw drops, then, they laugh, and not in a good way, It’s a nervous, uncomfortable laugh. Then, they offer up words of caution like “wait a minute did you think this through?” or “Are you sure about this?” or “What about all the legalities?” Cue 750 various legal scenarios about the dangers of living with family and the legal repercussions of purchasing a home together. Eventually, they may timidly come to the conclusion that it is OK to live this way (thanks for the thumbs up), but then they will quickly change the subject to something much less scary, like, the weather or Aunt Martha’s goiter.
People, I get it. This is unusual to everyone because it goes against America’s societal norm of independence. I get it but how dumb do people think I am? Did I just wake up one morning and think oh hell, you know what? I think I should just buy a home with my in-laws and we’ll all live happily ever after! WORST IDEA EVER, people!
A LOT has led up to this. It’s taken years of growth and priming. God was putting the pieces together even when I had no idea it was happening. It took city living. It took a move to Boulder. It took relationship growth. It took pain. It took a lot of things. Months of prayer, counsel, and more prayer went into it. Lots of late nights with the in-laws bringing up all possible scenarios down to the finest details. No, In fact, as much as people think I just woke up one morning and decided to willy-nilly move in with my in-laws, they couldn’t be any further away from the truth.
There’s a lot more to tell about how I got to this place but I’ll save that for another day. Right now I'm actually beginning to panic that my in-laws are going to detest living with me.
It sounds so cliched to write, sounds like an interesting journey, what you're describing. But it does! I'm so interested to read your processing process (very wordsmith word choice on my part, there) :)
ReplyDeletehaha! You do have a way with words! Thanks for reading. At least I'll have one interested party. :)
ReplyDeleteI love you. I love Andrew. I think this is fantastic. I think I was more shocked that you were moving away from me. However, I am excited to meet your in-laws, see your new home and act the same as we always do when we're together. I love you Abby Kurtz and I am going to miss you like fucking mad.
ReplyDeleteKristina! You were very supportive! I'm going to miss you like crazy too. Leaving you behind is the worst part about this whole move. I promise to come visit you and hope that you'll do the same.
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