Remember when I said I would NEVER live in Indy? Whoopsie! I’m fairly certain that God has a sense of humor and that sort of commentary generally comes back to bite you in the ass. It sure has for me!
In the earlier years of my marriage it’s something that I said to Andrew all the time. Who am I kidding? I’m pretty sure I said it sometime in the last 12 months. Anyway, It was always mentioned with affirmation after visits to the area. I didn’t like the sprawl. I didn’t like the chain restaurants. I didn’t like the weather. I didn't like the downtown. I didn’t like the obesity and the list went on and on.
In any case, things change and people change. That’s one of the cool things about being human. We have free will. We can change. We can evolve. We can grow. Living in Boulder for the last 2 years has been a gift. I have changed and grown a LOT and I’ve grown into a spot where I long for family.
A short list of other things I said I would NEVER do and now subsequently do all the time:
-Stay in on Friday and/or Saturday nights (oh the horror!)
-Get married
-Be that couple that sits and watches TV all night
-Wear raggity pajamas to bed
-Leave Colorado
-Move to Indy
-Go to counseling
-Eat organic food
-Have children (I’m still working on the never part of this one but I better watch it lest I end up with a brood of children)
In all seriousness though, saying never is a dangerous place to be. It holds you back. It limits you. It keeps you from the things and places where you might truly find happiness and fulfillment. It may keep you from an amazing plan for your life. For me, part of that plan is living with and near my family whom I adore. I know there is a lot more to this story and I can’t wait to see what else God has in store.
So true. There are boundaries, then there are limitations and judgments that don't serve us. I have so many I realized one time, only about a year ago, it was exhausting me!
ReplyDeleteI also have had "always." I will always be able to do gymnastics. Funny. I actually proclaimed that in my 30s when I could still do the splits. So funny now. I used to say I will always be thin. I remember telling a friend when I was in my late 30s that "If I have to pay someone to help me lose weight, just shoot me." So cavalier of me.
oh yeah there are definitely the alwayses (that's not a word) that can come back to haunt you.
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